"I Might Forget and Call You Joy!"
Monday, April 13, 2015 at 05:46PM
Lynn Young

You know those things. The ones that hold you back? We ALL have them. Big. Small. Annoying. Even life-threatening for some. Of course, I'm no different. Precisely 33 years ago, I let go and faced mine. Addiction. Cunning. Baffling. Powerful! There's a big story here (the stuff that books are made of---stay tuned!). But, here's the back story/ upshot for starters:

I had a life that looked really great. Wonderful new husband. Great job I loved in a field that really mattered. Lived in a very cool, old "rowhouse" in a funky neighborhood (just the way I liked it). Even a puppy! 

But---and here's the kicker...

I couldn't feel the happiness. Something was missing. And there was a sticky, repetitive mantra in my head...which went like this...

"Where is the joy?" 

Now, fast forward 33 years. I'm in full-blown recovery. Reaping the rewards. Self discovery, claim, life, hope, serenity, promises...bunches and bunches of possibility and juiciness in every day. The terrain I now live in is super verdant, super rich, and incredibly laced with----you guessed it, JOY!

In fact---I've been known to give hand calligraphed stones (a hobby of mine) to strangers as random acts of kindness---with one word on them. JOY. They are, literally, scattered all over the globe---including on the southernmost tip of the Cape of Africa. 

And in fact---JOY has become my e-signature! Anyone who has written to me by email in the last several years has seen this. So much so that not only do I know where the joy IS, I celebrate it, am grateful for it, live it almost every day (even in the hard stuff---more about that later). And, as a coach, I even have the great, divine privilege of helping people access their very own flavor of joy. The joy that for many, feels missing. (Or, maybe they have intermittent dashes of it---but KNOW in their heart there is more!)

Get the cosmic joke? The girl who went from wondering "Where is the joy?" is now the holder of the joy, the speader of the joy, and even at risk of being mistaken for Joy!

These are the kind of bold, audacious breath-taking life changes and leaps I'm interested in! This is the life that is so, so, possible. Really, right here in this moment. For everyone, I believe. Really----everyone. (Some of the greatest joy has been accessed in surprising places---concentration camps, the lips of prisoners.) 

So this week, when a young woman I'd just met said what she did, you now understand. Life simply doesn't get better than this!

"I might forget and call you Joy!" 

p.s. Did I do ANY of this alone? Not for a minute. I'm surrounded by courageous people who showed up, loved me, supported me, shone the light for me, cheered me---the whole shabang. That's what WE do as humans---we care, struggle, fall down, get up, believe, have hope and approach each moment as the gift of life that it is. I'm thrilled to be one of those welcomers now. And for anyone who might be struggling, hurting, challenged, hitting the wall of their own personal "block" (be it alcohol, drugs, sex, gambling, spending, numbing, eating, trying too hard, working too much, caretaking without ceasing, looking good, endless fear----whatever!) just know three things. You're not alone. There are people waiting to help---you just have to ask. And...

Joy lives on the other side----and is closer than you think!!

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