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Entries in Joy (3)


It Didn't "Just Happen"


Yesterday began with a trip to the dentist for a filling. Better to fill than fall out, I figure! And, in a deft move of efficiency, I cruised my little Fiat Convertible right over to Discount Tire, for a little swaperoo of my snowtires to summer. (Yes, a little seasonally late---but an impromptu trip to Europe bumped this bit of lifecare---of course!)

And you know what happened?

What could easily be a drudge was joygasmic! I'm not kidding.

How did that happen? (Because it didn't "just happen".)

Here's the secret.

#1. Don't expect it to be drudge. If you do, it will! No kidding...I sort of looked forward to it! 

#2. EMBRACE the  S  P  A  C  E.  Notice that there's opportunity right here. Everywhere, really! IF we can see it!

#3. Be prepared. When I was little I was in Girl Scouts. Our motto: Be Prepared. We each made something called a "Situpon". Vinyl folded over a big magazine and stitched. Kept our bums dry in the rain. Well---I guess that learning stuck, because there I was---prepared! (Less dry though---read on!) I'm a big reader so I had a book with me. One I'd grabbed and was about 3/4 of the way through. Busy days...and well, you know, it had sort of shuffled to the bottom of the pile. So----out it came!

#4. CHOOSE your environment. Notice the options! Expand what's possible! I'm not an inside girl. Not drawn to the sound of mechanics and the scent of burned coffee. That's the norm for most people. And I know it's not for me. Outside---well, it was a clear, sunny, blue sky Colorado day. Were there benches/chairs out there? No. Ahhhhh, but there was a slice of green grass. Now, I have to say, the first thing I noticed was a woman who took her little dog onto the grass---and he did his thing. Well--------gave me a teensy pause. But you know----what won out was another stretch of grass (not freshly watered and scented by a canine creature---to the best of my knowledge!) I went for it. And---as I laid down, oh did it cushion me. Ahhhh. AND was still damp from being watered. The old me would have leapt up, not wanting to get wet. But, as I relaxed into it, I realized it was perfect. The day was hot. The dampness cooled me. Just right. And there I was, on my tummy, in the grass, in my body, and so able to enter INto my book.

#5. Let it flow. The pages flew by. Just what I needed. Rich and resonant. Connecting me with memories, aspirations, myself, and things long forgotten. In the still grass of Discount tire I found myself. After awhile, I realized I was getting close to the end---and the time was longer than they'd said it would take. Choicepoint. Had they called my name? I decided to just keep gift myself with this moment, right to the end...even if my car was done. Finish the arc. Like licking the plate. I did. Closing the book and inhaling one last time. 

#6. It's OK if you get stiff. I realized it was hard to move! Getting up was tricky. How surpising and real and funny! But, it was fine....just fine. Sort of a reading "athletic injury"! 

#7. Celebrate. Take a moment and realize that you created this gift of space and time by your willingness to see it. To step into it. To receive it.  It's true. I came prepared. I have the gift of shifting perspectives which makes all the difference. I love that about me. And want it for you...for everyone, really.


That's how the dentist and the tire shop became joygasmic! What about you? Remember a time you made this shift----and were transported from drudge to joy? Leave it in the comments right here! We'd love to hear about it here. What's YOUR SECRET?? 

Juice. Joy. In it ALL. Even the dentist chair! (Someday, I'll write about the meditation I did there! Or the time I got a flat tire...or...)




18, 835 days

"You are the force that inspires, cultivates power within, ushers in the joy, and raises the bar of fantastic! Happy Birthday my incredible friend!!!"


Yesterday was my birthday. Social media neophyte that I am---I was bowled over by the global love-messages that landed in my inbox! These are all beautiful people. Whom I've loved. Connected with. Been blessed to know. And wow---to see these wishes cascade and ripple and vibrate---man (yes, I lived throught the 70's!), what a gift!! 

As I read and scrolled, I could even can see these people, connecting---not known to each other---but all connected in a web of life on this planet. What a cool vision. I'd LOVE them to have the chance to meet. Hmmmm...maybe that's a future birthday wish I'll make come true!

But here's the thing. Today. I want to say this...with 59 years lived. Yes, yesterday I claimed the most excellent, juicy, glorious, embodied 59 on the planet. I have stuff up my sleeves! I have some life lived warrior wounds---and badges. I have some scrapes and scars. I have a heart the size of Jupiter. I have heaps of hope. I have buff vision-holding muscles. All, because I've had the gift of being alive for 18, 835 days! (Just did the math---yes, with a pencil---I can still multiply which is also great news in this calculated age!) Whoa!

18, 835 days.

As I write, this sounds simultaneously very short---and very long.

What I really see in this that life comes in days.

Like today.

And, the only way we can live them is a day at a time. (I've done that quite literally, metaphorically, spiritually---but that's a story for another time!) No more, no less. None more important. All very real. That's both sobering and sweet to me. 

And so today...

I will listen.

To the love the world has sent. To my friend's reflections of me. To the impact I'm having in the world. To the dreams/visions/stuff in me that I haven't even said out loud yet. To my body. To you.

And I'll do it all with love...and gratitude.

Since midnight---this day---I've slept six hours. Connected over steel cut oats with a dear friend for two hours (with coffee flowing). Coached  for one hour. Booked a hotel room for a getaway. Prepped for coaching clients. Shared with my husband. And connected with you---right here in this moment. 

I've wished for you. For the feeling of this header, landing in your Facebook page...on your birthday.

And, if for some reason, your life feels not quite aligned, less juicy, joyful or powerful than you desire,  know that I stand by. Ready, to join you as we roll up our sleeves. Ready to flex my vision holding muscles in service of your fulfillment! Right here---in this precious hour of your life. I'm a simple finger click away. L'chaim!


100% Life Flinger

One thing I've learned in my coaching/leadership journey is this: When you do something, go for it. 100%! No holding back. Show up, risk, give, love, live. Even intentionally say no to some juicy things (OMG you know how hard this is for me---the girl who is always ready for the next adventure, or new taste!) in service of your Big Yes! This supports (very powerfully) what you are up to!

And so.

You may have noticed a big, juicy, fat, silence right here in my blogspace.

I've been away---creating.  Whole-heartedly focusing all my energy elsewhere and with joy. Embracing a moment in my life that will never come again. Our daughter's most amazing, magical, glorious joy-filled wedding to our new, incredible son-in law. Wow. Big stuff. Big heart, head, soul, spirit, mind, body and even money stuff!

Yes, me---wide open in the Juicy All of It.

And, since my fabulous, capable, creative daughter and now-husband live in Washington DC----I was the "boots on the ground" here in Colorado Springs, "Wedding Central".  In a 100% Wedding Fling. As I begin to reclaim my life (you know, the professional coaching, book-writing and so much more life) I'm back here. With you. And, with some juicy learning (or re-learning!). 

1. Cook up a plan---and hold it lightly! Embrace effortlessness AND all the messy surprises. Then dance with all of it! (Yup, it's true---the reception room only had two walls. And snow was possible.)

2. Taste the joy of co-creation. Welcome everyone to the table. Listen. Imagine together. Honor it all. (Meg and Mark were amazing. What a joy to see them in this way. To follow their creative, heart lead. Together with my amazing and extraordinary friend of the Big Yes, Pattigirl White. Bless you!!!)

3. Believe that it's possible. I mean really possible (especially when you don't see a way). 

4. Fear will appear. Embrace it. Welcome it. Release it.My fear was our family/friends flying in from parts unknown for this amazing wedding----and being downright cold. I mean cold. But, what really happened was that out of this possibility grew really creative stuff. Invitations to wear boots, jackets (shawls don't count) and experience "springtime in Colorado!" Really. And I remembered I'm a daughter of the immigrants to the prairies. I bet they had outdoor springtime parties---and knew how to bundle up, or dance even more energetically, or snuggle up to the fire. I got in touch with all that. We did all that---and the energy was incredible---unleashed creativity and more!

5. Nothing wrong with a little breakdown and some tears. In fact, that's a blessed release. Don't over-think it. Let it flow and go. (Oh yeah baby. Thank goodness for "Janis Joplin", my wonderful couch. And Ben, my partner who by now knows its just some tears. Nothing to do about it. But welcome the flow!)

6.  Know that there is Mystery in it. You are not in charge (even though it may feel as if you should be.) Let go---and let come. 

7. See the Love in Everything! It's easy to get so hellbent on the doing/creating/organizing/executing/lining up the ducks in row...that you lose sight of what's true. What's incredible. What's really important.

8. Remember to rest. I confess, this is one I'm working on!

9. It's OK to let some absolutely, fabulous, brilliant, gorgeous, incredible ideas go! And, it feels fantastic when you do this! Especially for those of us that are creative, idea magnets!

10. Stop and see and feel and BE. Every 1/2 hour, if you can. Sit down. When I remembered to do this it re-connected me to my body. To the sunlight. To my Source. 

11. If you get tightly wound up, be gentle with yourself. It happens. Clean up your mess. Don't expect yourself to be perfect. Move on.

12. Laugh. At the wild things that happen (they'll make a good book, or blogpost, right?). Laugh at yourself, too!

13. Know when a ship has sailed----and let go. Remember that good idea? You know, the one that you might have done if it were 3 months ago? Yup----let it go. And know that something more wonderful will appear if you're not living in regret.

14. It's who you are being in all of the doing that makes all the difference. Know your values and let them lead you. (We were committed to not being overly-extravagant. And yet, sticker shock at every corner! It was in the framing what we were up to and why, that we found peace. Together with making a decision---and going with it.)

15. Love is in the lead. Let love lead. Never forget it.  That little girl---whom I gave birth to. That little girl of dreams and hopes and potential. That little girl I love with my whole wide open heart. That little girl of power and beauty beyond measure. That Love Creation of her father's and mine. Wow. She found love. True love. Real whole love. No wonder this matters so much. No wonder my heart is still wide open. No wonder...because Love is bigger than all of us. And when Love Leads...we are all the better for it.

16. Look into each other's eyes. Often. This grounded me. Centered me. Softened me. Instantaneously. Bam. Try it!

17. Ask for help. People love to be included and contribute. It's a gift to them. I felt a little reluctance----making up a story that I wanted people to have the full experience of receiving. And yet, those who I invited in to help said they loved doing it. Being so close. Sharing their gifts. Come to think of it---so do I!

18. Don't fret over what you wear. Or if you do, give yourself permission to do something about it!  (Ha ha! Never saw this one coming. As someone who dons clothes effortlessly, creatively and with reckless abandon---who knew that MY dress would be the land of neurosis rising! Sheesh!)

19. The juice flows when it is real. And that is Divine. It was fun planning---OK, mostly fun! Yet, seeing our plans come to life in real time! Wow. Real people walking into the church, aglow. Beloveds gathering. Singing. Celebrating. Toasting. Dancing. Be-ing in the "magical" space with so much Joy. Really---joy everywhere. As I looked out---and even now as I remember, tears fill my eyes--there it was. Two beautiful human beings found love. We gathered to celebrate love. And it was contagious. in my toast, ..."Here's to love...past, present and future!" And to love in your life. In all you do. In who you are. In everything. Every single 100% moment of your juicy life!